(via gabifresh)Source: slimgiltsoul
Yes. I hope this post catches fire because this is something that irritates the ever loving piss out of me. I have learned to deal with the nutty looks I get from my doctors when I tell them I stay the hell away from hormonal birth control, along with phthalates, PVC, parabens, BPA, and a host of other estrogen mimics and endocrine disrupters. Women deserve to make informed decisions about what they put in their bodies and the effect those chemicals have on the environment. Saying this does not make you a bad feminist. It doesn’t mean that you don’t think women shouldn’t have control over when or if we reproduce, or how many children we choose to have. It just means, shit, maybe hormonal birth control kinda sucks, and maybe we deserve better. I’m annoyed that the pharmaceutical industry has basically said, “Look, we gave you bitches a magic slut Pill, and thanks to Obamacare, that shit’s free. Leave us alone so we can continue the proliferation of boner medicine and synthetic testosterone already.” Source: angelinegragasin
ME (to Ann Friedman, via email): I am upset that the feminist conversation on birth control consistently neglects to consider the insidious politics and influence of the pharmaceutical industry on the perception of synthetic hormones, specifically the long term and far reaching consequences on fertility, the municipal water supply, and the profiteering that comes with marketing unnecessary medication to women who are taught to believe that taking an industrially manufactured chemical substance is the de facto way to express her sexuality safely and responsibly, or to take control of her reproductive system and life. I think there are many parallels to many other issues - sustainable vs industrial agriculture being the most obvious one.
I want to confront this issue in an essay but I’ve never done journalism before. What do you think?
I talked to my friend Angeline about my frustration that birth control isn’t getting better.
A List of “Men’s Rights” Issues That Feminism Is Already Working On
Feminists do not want you to lose custody of your children. The assumption that women are naturally better caregivers is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not like commercials in which bumbling dads mess up the laundry and competent wives have to bustle in and fix it. The assumption that women are naturally better housekeepers is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to have to make alimony payments. Alimony is set up to combat the fact that women have been historically expected to prioritize domestic duties over professional goals, thus minimizing their earning potential if their “traditional” marriages end. The assumption that wives should make babies instead of money is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want anyone to get raped in prison. Permissiveness and jokes about prison rape are part of rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want anyone to be falsely accused of rape. False rape accusations discredit rape victims, which reinforces rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be lonely and we do not hate “nice guys.” The idea that certain people are inherently more valuable than other people because of superficial physical attributes is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to have to pay for dinner. We want the opportunity to achieve financial success on par with men in any field we choose (and are qualified for), and the fact that we currently don’t is part of patriarchy. The idea that men should coddle and provide for women, and/or purchase their affections in romantic contexts, is condescending and damaging and part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be maimed or killed in industrial accidents, or toil in coal mines while we do cushy secretarial work and various yarn-themed activities. The fact that women have long been shut out of dangerous industrial jobs (by men, by the way) is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to commit suicide. Any pressures and expectations that lower the quality of life of either gender are part of patriarchy. The fact that depression is characterized as an effeminate weakness, making men less likely to seek treatment, is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be viewed with suspicion when you take your child to the park (men frequently insist that this is a serious issue, so I will take them at their word). The assumption that men are insatiable sexual animals, combined with the idea that it’s unnatural for men to care for children, is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be drafted and then die in a war while we stay home and iron stuff. The idea that women are too weak to fight or too delicate to function in a military setting is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want women to escape prosecution on legitimate domestic violence charges, nor do we want men to be ridiculed for being raped or abused. The idea that women are naturally gentle and compliant and that victimhood is inherently feminine is part of patriarchy.
Feminists hate patriarchy. We do not hate you.
If you really care about those issues as passionately as you say you do, you should be thanking feminists, because feminism is a social movement actively dedicated to dismantling every single one of them. The fact that you blame feminists—your allies—for problems against which they have been struggling for decades suggests that supporting men isn’t nearly as important to you as resenting women. We care about your problems a lot. Could you try caring about ours?"